Since the last time we talked about why having a black girlfriend is an experience like no other, today we are telling black men who want to date a white girlfriend, what the experience is like. Much as not all white women are the same, there are certain traits that most of them possess. Plus, my advice is to find the right white girl who compliments you in every way.
Why a Black man might benefit from dating a white girl
They love to party
If you are the kind of man that loves to party, she will be the life of your party. White women like love to let loose. These women are adventurous. She will dance and she will also hike. The thing is, when its time to be easy and enjoy life, she will do it properly. All you need to do is to tell her what adventure you want to try next.
They put more value in a man’s inner beauty than his physical beauty and finances
It doesn’t matter how good or masculine a man is, how educated ot how fat his bank account is. A white girlfriend will love you for who you are. The only thing she wants in return is genuine love and respect. All she wants is a man who can treat her right.
The accent can be sexy
If you use your online dating site well and you have no qualms about where the girl comes from, then you definitely want to try including white women from England, Australia, France, Germany… These women have got very sexy accents. She speaks and you go dazed!
A white girlfriend can be quite adventurous in the bedroom
Now, this is something that we have all heard. Now, I know its not good to stereotype. But I think it all stems from the fact that the Western culture is quite liberal. Plus, we see the way they love PDAs. That should definitely tell you something. If they can be that open in public, imagine when it’s just the two of you…
These days its like everywhere you look, you can’t miss seeing someone with an interracial partner. We recently experienced the royal wedding when Prince Harry married Meghan Markle. So clearly, there must be something great about being an interracial couple.
1. You learn new things about your partner’s culture
One of the major benefits of having an interracial partner is that every day is a learning experience. This is a person who probably comes from a totally different culture. You will definitely learn a lot about their food, music, traditions, beliefs … Plus you will get to experience all these things firsthand.
Some people may have a problem with some of these differences. But if you keep an open mind you will be amazed at how much you will enjoy most things.
2. You get a different experience from what you are usually used to
First off there is the differences in race and possibly color. For some people this is not something they are used to. Its a whole new experience. And something new is always exciting. Apparently, these new experiences can even enhance things in the bedroom)
3. You get to travel
If your interracial mate isn’t originally from your country, you get the opportunity to travel their country and explore new things that may not be in your country. Take advantage of this.
4. Mixed race kids with your interracial partner will be cute
This is not just a myth. Its real. Have you seen an interracial family with their kids? Damn! Those kids are cute. They always get envious stares from people all the time. I think that the combination of races brings out some exotic features in these kids. Your kids will definitely be adorable.
5. You become stronger as a couple
The true test of interracial love comes in the wake of criticism from people. What I love most about interracial couples is that they believe in their love. Interracial couples tend to fight for one another in the presence of racists and haters. And this makes their love much stronger. A great bond is formed.
Latino girls have been hailed by most people who date them. Much as they come from various parts, there are several traits they have that are common with most of them. If you get a chance to date one of these girls you have found a treasure.
Why dating Hispanic women is great.
Latino girls are feisty, vocal and full of energy.
These are traits that make these women stand out. The beauty of dating a Latino woman is that they are honest and will not mince their words. So if you are doing something wrong, she will tell you upfront. So you will always know if you are treating her right.
They are loving and caring
Latinas are very loving and caring people. If you meet one who likes you, be sure she will give you all her heart. Just be sure to reciprocate and treat her with the respect she deserves.
They are very much family oriented
Family is very important for most Latino girls. Respect that. If you are planning to take it to the next level, she will embrace your family as if it were her own. Plus you are guaranteed that she will take care of you when you start your own.
They love food so you will never go hungry
Always go on an empty stomach. Whenever you pay her a visit she will feed you. Plus, they really know how to cook some great dishes that are bursting with flavor. With recipes handed down from generation to generation, just sit there and enjoy the feast.
They are great dancers.
Hispanic music is great. And so are the women at dancing. You will have so much fun with her as she will shake her body like no one can. Their culture is very rich and fun. Embrace it. You are going to love every bit of it.
There is nothing searched more than how to get over an ex. It is never an easy thing for someone to do especially if you have invested too much time in the relationship. It can even get harder when you are on the receiving end of the breakup and you didn’t see it coming.
Now, the breakup might be dragging you down. Your ex might still be occupying your mind. However, at some point, you need to let go of him or her. Sad as breakups are, brooding over an ex isn’t healthy either. And stalking them on social media is worse.
Below are some tips on how to get over your ex and prepare yourself to reenter the dating field again.
1. Cry! Cry! Cry!
Crying is not just for babies. It is very therapeutic. Its ok to be sad. So make sure you give yourself enough time to cry.
Think about the relationship and reflect on what might have gone wrong. Apparently, it helps ease ones pain as opposed to ignoring that the break up happened. Acceptance is the way to healing.
3. Hang out with your friends
You probably spent less time with your friends. Go out with them and have fun in order to take your mind off things.
4. Get a hobby
Pick up a hobby that single people can enjoy such as a dance class, a fitness class or even volunteering.
5. Stop hanging out with your mutual friends
At some point in the relationship, you find yourself sharing friends. If you continue hanging out with them, they will always drag you down as they tell you stories about your ex and how they are moving on.
6. How to get over an ex is as easy as getting a makeover
You might not feel like doing it but changing your look can make you see things in a different light. At the same tie, it will get you ready to look attractive for the next guy or girl. Apply that lipstick, dress up and hold your head high.
7. Try online dating
Once you are ready to move on, how about giving online dating a shot. Its a great start to moving on…
Much as interracial relationships are on the rise, there are a number of interracial couples who still have to go through some unpleasant experiences. All these are because of the biases within the society that some people still carry around. Even the highly esteemed interracial celebrity couples have had their fair share of discrimination and backlash online.
Here are some of the 5 common struggles that mixed race couples still face for being together.
1.Snappy comments about your spouse
There are people who still don’t understand how one can be attracted to someone from a different race. It makes some uncomfortable that you find them making overt or covert racist comments.
One White man’s friend asked his Asian girlfriend whether she understood English. He spoke to her slowly even after telling him that she is American born and raised.
Annoying as some of these comments can be, I guess some people just can’t handle the fact that people can be open to dating interracially.
2. When people assume interracial couples hate their own race
“Did you not find a man your own race to date”? This question is brought up by those who feel you probably hate your own race. This is something that most black people dating interracially have been asked.
Some people cant just believe that interracial relationships can be based on love. They feel there must be an underlying racial hatred to it. They feel you don’t want your children to have your features.
3. When people ask if you are the nanny to your own kids
This happens so much to black and white couples especially if the kids have more white features. One woman walked up to a kid and blatantly asked her where her mommy was. And that time, the African American mom was holding her hand.
There was an instance where a dad had to explain to the police that he was, in fact, the father after someone called to report a kidnapping.
4. When people hit on your spouse because they don’t consider you as a couple.
I have never understood why people still find it hard to accept that interracial couples exist. So even when together at social events, you might find people flirting openly with your significant other… or you. They completely choose to ignore the possibility of you two being an item. Some assume its probably a work thing.
5. When people harass you for being together
Some get spat on. Others get insulted, using words and even physically. It is so sad that we still see accounts of hate crimes against interracial couples all over the internet.
“Mixed up” is a film which highlights the experiences of mixed race people. See the thing is, there has been a great rise in interracial relationships and marriages. So it makes sense that there is a general rise in mixed race individuals. And growing up as a mixed person comes with its own challenges. And the biggest challenge is the issue of identity.
What are you?
The thing is, most interracial individuals are usually bombarded with the question: What are you. It’s like society expects them to explain why they look different. And normally we always expect them to pick a side. What race are they? And for some reason, people have a high fascination for them.
Let’s look at someone born of a white mother and a black father for instance. These individuals usually have to deal with being in the middle. Blacks will say they are not black enough. On the other hand, they are not white enough. So such individuals usually find themselves being discriminated upon for this.
Racism.. and mixed individuals
If it comes to racism, they find themselves feeling this from both sides. Parents of mixed individuals on the other hand usually find themselves having to explain to their children why they don’t look like either parent. Some parents have been called nannies to their own children. Others have been mistaken for kidnappers. And they always find themselves having to explain themselves to people. And these are their own flesh and blood.
With the rise of many mixed families, the numbers of these individuals are rising. So there is need to address this issue of identity. The thing is, our future is becoming more mixed. We find lesser traditional families these days. And when mixed individuals finally get married, their families tend to become even more diverse as they might find themselves consisting of more than one race.
So, let’s all embrace these individuals.
Just like in the US, interracial dating in the United Kingdom was mainly black and white in the 1960s. White women who dated interracially then were considered ‘traitors’.
Interracial Dating in The UK
Such realities of interracial dating in the UK were highlighted in the film “A United Kindom” of 2016. This is a real life story of a Botswana president, Sir Seretse Khama who went to Britain for his studies and fell in love with this White woman, Ruth. And their interracial love stirred a diplomatic crisis between the UK and South Africa which neighbors Botswana.
Today, things have changed massively. However, one woman recalls her mixed race daughter coming home upset after a night out. She was with a white man. And the remark that hurt her was: “Why do all you black girls think you can take our men?”
Well, clearly, interracial dating in the UK is so far off from the US. Such comments about what race takes another race are something that we have heard too many a times. It’s not a new thing. And much as things are better, the UK hasn’t come as far as it thinks if people are still making such comments.
Like other areas, this is a country that believes they are living in a place where people are racially tolerant and that they don’t see color. We want to seem open-minded. But clearly, not everyone is.
UK in 70s and 80s
So, yes we have progressed. yes, there is more interracial dating happening in the UK that it was in the 70s and 80s. There are more mixed race families and individuals that are cropping up with every passing year. But does this automatically make us tolerant? People are still driven by attitudes and prejudices.
Today, some people are still fascinated by interracial couples. The glances don’t seem to end. Interracial dating clearly is still a fairly new concept in the United Kingdom.
In today’s times of digital technology and Smartphone, everyone has access to a smartphone and the facilities that are provided by it. This makes the search for a partner online quite easily. Online interracial dating websites are very helpful to find a good partner for dating, a short term or long term relationship or even marriage. A research says “today 15% of U.S. adults report they have used online dating websites and online dating apps to find a life partner”. If you like any person on the online interracial dating website, you can talk to him/her the same way as you would have been talking in real life online. And later on, your can go on a date with each other. Here are few facts about online interracial dating –
Online Interracial Dating is the best and easy way to meet people
You can easily find a life partner through online interracial dating websites. Joining an online interracial dating website is easy and does not require many details. As soon as you are registered suggestions from people start pouring in and you just need to select a few whom you think can be compatible with you. Once found those compatible individuals you can select one and go out on a date.
Men read less observe more on online interracial dating websites
Research has proven that men spend less time on online dating websites reading what has been written over there. When they check a woman’s online dating profile, they tend to check only her photographs and spend less time reading her dating profile. Sorry, but it is a surprising fact. Chances are that if a woman has good images of her uploaded on her dating profile she is going to receive many prospects to date her. Men and women both need to take good care of the images they upload on the online interracial dating website.
Relationships on Online interracial dating websites are voluntary
People register on online interracial dating websites voluntarily. If you are there are find someone of a different race whom you like anything but are scared to do so because you are of a different race do not worry. People on online interracial dating websites have registered themselves to be found or to find people from other races for dating. Relationships that are built on online interracial dating websites are voluntary with a better understanding between the individuals which have a better chance of surviving all odds.
One-Fifth of Committed Relationships start from online dating
If it is true of online dating, if you are looking for a serious partner online dating website is the best place to find a good life partner. Research says, one- fifth American committed relationships started via online dating. These online dating websites help you find a good partner.
Online daters get a good opportunity to meet new and interesting people
If you are very busy in the office and you do not have time to find a partner, online interracial dating is one of the best places to find a partner for yourself. You do not have to go anywhere to find a partner for you. You can register on an online interracial dating website and you can easily find a partner. This gives an opportunity to sail into unexplored waters, meet new people and explore new opportunities with them in terms of relationships.
“You did good… you married a white man!”
That’s an actual quote that one of our staff members (a black woman) recently heard from one of her aunts. Apparently, her aunt thought that she had done well, financially or socially, because she’d married outside of her race. We thought that notion was something that simply had to be explored – especially since there’s so much buzz about black women not getting married in today’s society!
In this post, we’d like to explore the idea of hypergamy, or “marrying up” as it’s commonly known, and how this myth casts a negative shadow on the interracial dating community. Especially between black women and white men. It’s sad that in 2014 there is still a stigma that black women choose to marry white men in order to climb the social and economic ladder. Rather than focusing on the foundation of love as a means for marriage, people continue to associate stereotypes toward interracial couples. And the black woman/white man combination always takes the brunt of the scrutiny for some reason.
Interracial Marriage between black women and white men
First, let’s talk about why this notion of financial or social gains as a result of an interracial marriage between black women and white men is absolutely absurd. Although this isn’t necessarily a great statistic to make the argument, black women are currently the least likely of all women to get married. According to the most recent census, 25 percent of the marriages of black men in 2010 were interracial. However, black women do not cross the color chasm nearly as often. If black women were driven by ulterior motives to marry outside of their race then they would be rivaling their black male counterparts in the interracial marriage department. As a matter of fact, among all women who made up the 8.4 percent of total interracial marriages in 2010, they comprised one of the lowest numbers overall.
Some statistics say that 43% of black women between the ages of 30 and 34 have never been married. However, this figure is also similar to the percentage of unmarried women among other races except for white females. They are simply not dating or marrying interracially enough to even be accused of marrying up. We’re definitely not saying that’s a good thing; we’re just stating facts that would seem to debunk the myth.
Next, what exactly is “marrying up” when black females are enjoying more success today than ever before? The black community has approximately $850 billion to spend and black women control 62% of that pie. Here’s another interesting factoid: the ratio of women to men at black colleges is 7 to 1. It’s hard to make the argument that black women are out looking for interracial dating to increase their financial or social standings in the world when they seem to be doing just fine by themselves.
Today’s black woman is highly educated, doing well financially and she isn’t even dating outside of her race often enough to be perceived as marrying up. So, that shouldn’t even be something of concern when thinking about interracial dating as a viable option. Black females should just ignore this type of talk and do whatever makes sense for them because they are the ones in the driver’s seat of their lives. And no offense to the older generation, like the approving aunt of our friend, but that antiquated kind of thinking is bound to die as black women continue to flourish
Keeping your woman happy and content with the interracial relationship you are going through is your responsibility. You may shower her with the choicest and most expensive gifts. However, there are a few traits that act as a turn off for women. When in an interracial relationship you need to steer clear away from exhibiting such behavior and traits that may prove to be fatal for your interracial relationship.
Manners and etiquettes matter a lot in interracial relationships
Manners and etiquettes are the true essences of a man. Gentleman behavior is never outdated. However, gentlemen behavior is an attitude that is hard to develop. Treating your woman with respect and acting in a gentlemen way not only with your girl but also with people whom you come in contact on a daily basis is essential. Make sure you develop your manners and etiquettes with time else you are going to find it hard to date a woman of your choice. Feigning to be a gentleman is not advised as you may be caught off guard by your interracial partner sooner or later.
Constant nagging is a killer in an interracial relationship
Constant nagging in any relationship tends to be a sign of passive aggressiveness. Aggressiveness in any form is a killer for any relationship. You need to keep calm and be in control of your anger, aggressiveness and let your girlfriend have her me time. Constantly asking her about her whereabouts or just checking on her every hour will make her run from you. Care and being updated is one aspect but looks good only when it is in limits. Over caring may be taken as intruding on the privacy of your interracial partner which is not at all advised by dating coaches.
Poor hygiene is a deal breaker in interracial relationships
You need to take care of brushing teeth, having clean clothes to wear, nails trimmed, have a nice fragrance when on a date or even when in public. Women tend to take a much better notice of men who are score high on their personal hygiene traits. A person with a bad breath and shabby dress will not be an idea for a date for any woman whether it is an interracial relationship or even a normal relationship.
Women do not like narcissists
A man who is full of self-praise and self-love is a failure in terms of dating. Men need to ensure that they have the time and orientation to praise their lady before telling her about his qualities and way of life. Berating your interracial girlfriend to ensure that you are able to keep your position above her will not help the interracial relationship anyway. It is good once in a while to show off your qualities but ranting about yourself, your possessions or your family will surely drive her away from you.
Men need to make sure they are able to make their girl feel comfortable in an interracial relationship. She should not feel like she has been trapped in a relationship. Helping her find her true self in a relationship is the best you can do to continue to take the relationship to a logical start.