The realities of being a mixed race person

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“Mixed up” is a film which highlights the experiences of mixed race people. See the thing is, there has been a great rise in interracial relationships and marriages. So it makes sense that there is a general rise in mixed race individuals. And growing up as a mixed person comes with its own challenges. And the biggest challenge is the issue of identity.

What are you?

The thing is, most interracial individuals are usually bombarded with the question: What are you. It’s like society expects them to explain why they look different. And normally we always expect them to pick a side. What race are they? And for some reason, people have a high fascination for them.

Let’s look at someone born of a white mother and a black father for instance. These individuals usually have to deal with being in the middle. Blacks will say they are not black enough. On the other hand, they are not white enough. So such individuals usually find themselves being discriminated upon for this.

Racism.. and mixed individuals

If it comes to racism, they find themselves feeling this from both sides. Parents of mixed individuals on the other hand usually find themselves having to explain to their children why they don’t look like either parent. Some parents have been called nannies to their own children. Others have been mistaken for kidnappers. And they always find themselves having to explain themselves to people. And these are their own flesh and blood.

With the rise of many mixed families, the numbers of these individuals are rising. So there is need to address this issue of identity. The thing is, our future is becoming more mixed. We find lesser traditional families these days. And when mixed individuals finally get married, their families tend to become even more diverse as they might find themselves consisting of more than one race.

So, let’s all embrace these individuals.

Realities of Interracial Dating in the United Kingdom

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Just like in the US, interracial dating in the United Kingdom was mainly black and white in the 1960s. White women who dated interracially then were considered ‘traitors’.

Interracial Dating in The UK

Such realities of interracial dating in the UK were highlighted in the film “A United Kindom” of 2016. This is a real life story of a Botswana president, Sir Seretse Khama who went to Britain for his studies and fell in love with this White woman, Ruth. And their interracial love stirred a diplomatic crisis between the UK and South Africa which neighbors Botswana.

Today, things have changed massively. However, one woman recalls her mixed race daughter coming home upset after a night out. She was with a white man. And the remark that hurt her was: “Why do all you black girls think you can take our men?”

Well, clearly, interracial dating in the UK is so far off from the US. Such comments about what race takes another race are something that we have heard too many a times. It’s not a new thing. And much as things are better, the UK hasn’t come as far as it thinks if people are still making such comments.

Like other areas, this is a country that believes they are living in a place where people are racially tolerant and that they don’t see color. We want to seem open-minded. But clearly, not everyone is.

UK in 70s and 80s

So, yes we have progressed. yes, there is more interracial dating happening in the UK that it was in the 70s and 80s. There are more mixed race families and individuals that are cropping up with every passing year. But does this automatically make us tolerant? People are still driven by attitudes and prejudices.

Today, some people are still fascinated by interracial couples. The glances don’t seem to end. Interracial dating clearly is still a fairly new concept in the United Kingdom.